That one day event of your lifetime? It's yay or nay.
Most people, I believe.. The process would be.. Go for engagement - legal government marriage - the wedding.
I skipped the engagement part.
It took me almost 1 year approximately after I got married legally through the government with my husband. To Plan... Next? The church matrimony. Well,there was struggles, at first, of getting engage or to skip. We were thinking, if we are about to get engage, we need to spend a budget for the engagement. After my husband (boyfriend during that time) and I have a long discussion, we decided to get married straight away, legally. Skip the engagement. Budget constraint. No shame in saying that. True story.
To those who want to go for the engagement process, of coz it is up to you. This blog is all about the process and plans from my husband and I; how we came out with our preparation, challenges, struggles, the ultimate stress until my husband got his grey hair so fast even if I dyed it like few days ago, until my eyebags got worst, sleep deprive, my hormones were unstable, losing weights. No worries readers, people told us to enjoy the process of preparing and planning a wedding. So yeah, probably we did.
And No. I wasn't pregnant either. Doesn't mean a couple got engage, she won't get pregnant or she might already pregnant. Doesn't mean the couple straight away to go for a wedding, she's pregnant. Rational people. Rational and civilised.
Different couple might have different ways of of planning, might run smoothly and become the coolest wedding ever, or might be so grand wedding ever. It's different for other people. And not comparing, just sharing :) All weddings are beautiful.
It won't be I when there is US. Especially when it is an "I DO" event.
Communication with your spouse.
It is very important to always update and discuss with your spouse about what you want to have during your wedding, what he want to have during the wedding; because a husband too, want to be part of the process. Let him be. Never neglect your spouse because he/she is your lifetime. And a wedding is a LIFETIME. Indulge with the plans, and if it's possible, plausible and you can make it happen? MAKE IT HAPPEN. Example, we always talked about having my husband fly around me in a wedding gown for photoshoot using skateboard, with a skateboard? Well, we did. And super awesome! We love it at one point become narcissist with it. Hahahaha.
Budget.
Here is one of the most crucial part in your entire life. Budget budget budget. I was looking at the minimal budget, but with the quality that suits the budget too. I Googles, Pinterest, Reading magazines like nuts, keep on surfing the internet to see the do's & don'ts. I keep on asking quotations on flowers, photographer, wedding galleries, door gifts, hotels, church, caterings, bridesmaid dresses, any DIY in mind, shoes, rings, registrations if any, ties, bestmen, suit, your parents dress, themes; I can list this to the the tiniest thing I plan.
Remember to set your budget and try to go within your budget. Unless your families are willing to invest, make sure they help you. It's YOUR wedding, they need to make you happy in order they feel happy getting the plan run smoothly. Remember, always do your budgetary.
Family (Both Side).
My families have so much problems that cannot be undo, and it cost me more stress than I ever had. I was under depression. My husband caught me several times crying due to my family problems. It was too much too take until at one point, I don't give a damn anymore. I thanked him (my husband) for still accepting me regardless what happen, loving me more each day by day and not giving up with me. I can't make this wedding happen without the help of one particular family who I owe so much for their help and favor. I'll pay back. Even if it took me so much time, I must pay back. What else could I do besides that praying for their blessings and pay the bit by bit right? It's better than nothing.
Husband's side : They helped. With other things matter as well happened in their families, they helped. Nope, not saying much too.
Planning.
Who you want to be your bridesmaids? Who is your bestmen? Church, where? Date? Choir? Hotel? How many guests who want? How big is your budget scale to your guests attendance? How much you can finance for a hotel reception? What type of rings you prefer? What kind of wedding gown you want? Alcohol? Church Rehearsal? Hotel rehearsal? Band? Performances? Mom? Dad? Friends?
We planned not to put on a wedding reception at first. We just want a simple church ceremony. Pushed, brain washed, advises, opinions, words by words. We gave up. Yah, ok. With the reception, we go....
Back to planning part, you have to put extra time and put aside your laziness for this. It is important. Make a notes on everything you want. I scribble so much on a book until it was now my wedding planning book/ diary. You named it. I scribbled, jot down, full of numbers, colors; GONE CRAZY!
Days before The Wedding: Checklist.
Until few days before the wedding, we checked in early into the hotel. I was at ease. I told my mom I was running away from home because we were bringing a huge luggage bag along during our stay for the wedding. Yeap. Haha. I don't even managed to get a manicure because I was having bad migraine for few days and I just want to eat and eat and eat, sleep, have some rest but nothing can be done. We are still around the clock. I can't even think anymore. I slept only about 3-4 hours everytime during that period. My weight dropped few kgs, my wedding dress was loose (trust me, I asked the wedding gallery to make it smaller few weeks before)... What more to say my wedding ring. Loose! We go through the wedding list, wedding songs, wedding programme, wedding slideshows, wedding colors, flowers, photobooth, last minute payment to be ready, the script, carwash; everything!
My friends were there.. His friends were there too. Our families too.. We wouldn't be able to pulled this off without their help and nagging during the planning. If they don't push us, we might be one step behind for the things we need to do. Without their words and encouragements? Maybe I won't be able to smile and let things go during the actual day. We were really really thankful for that. We can't make things well but they were there for us without we realising it.
During our wedding day..
My husband and I, we prayed before we start our day early in the morning. With the word, AMEN, we let things go and let it run as how it might be. Day or night, as what I remember, we had fun. We say I DO before the priest, giving our smiles and thanks to everyone who was there to witness our day. We hope that everyone did have fun that day. We really apologise if you didn't get enough food, enough rest, or too crowded and so much more.. It wasn't perfect like how I want it to be. Oh well, which bride does not want to have a prefect wedding right?
I remember that we can't greet everyone like how we want it in plan, I remember our emcee did some mistakes during the reception, I remember for not having the slideshows for the matrimony holds during the church, I remember that food and drinks wasn't enough during lunch time in church, I remember that I forgot to bring the ring placement during church, I remember that I don't wear heels during the dinner because I don't even bother to buy one anymore, but I remember friends and families hugging us, the smiles and happiness that they share, putting their time and efforts to come over just to attend the wedding, congratulating us for the new day of our lives.
We (my husband and I), we are not that terrible nor too good to be true during our younger days. I think? We drink till dawn, we party like crazy, some friends are good influences and some are not, some say we might not getting married because our attitudes and manners doesn't please the elderly. Honestly speaking, I thought that I won't be getting married because most elderly say that they are not keen of me for my social life and not be able to settle down. We are just people person; you make friends with us, than of coz we're friends. We will say Hi. If you're not, than it's not. We might know you but we may have difficulty in greeting you probably because that feeling of.. "Yeah, I know her. But I don't think she knows me. So, that's okay. I just knew her through Facebook. That's friends too I guess.." kinda thoughts. Vice versa.
That younger days taught us so much, even now the world still teaching us about lives with God's will and plans. That's the challenges. You want to settle down? You want to stay single? Or be forever clubbers? Anyhow that is your choice to make.
In my opinion, it is all about commitment. It's the commitment to God, to love ones, to families. Keep that in mind, keep that into prayers. I want to be the best for my husband, keeping him safe, warm and happy. Keeping him occupied and annoys him whenever I can, so that he knows that I love him. Because he would do the same to me. :)
To those who are single and searching for love, it will come. Regardless you are getting married now or later, doesn't matter. Live your life to the fullest and love shall come to you. Be wise in getting fullest in life, we might get into the wrong moments until we can't get back on track..
This video was made by Anderson + J Vision Studio, on our actual day, 21 May 2016. Hope you enjoy it. And yes, this video is worth every money that I spend and seek just to make it happened. Please click this link below!
Most people, I believe.. The process would be.. Go for engagement - legal government marriage - the wedding.
I skipped the engagement part.
It took me almost 1 year approximately after I got married legally through the government with my husband. To Plan... Next? The church matrimony. Well,there was struggles, at first, of getting engage or to skip. We were thinking, if we are about to get engage, we need to spend a budget for the engagement. After my husband (boyfriend during that time) and I have a long discussion, we decided to get married straight away, legally. Skip the engagement. Budget constraint. No shame in saying that. True story.
To those who want to go for the engagement process, of coz it is up to you. This blog is all about the process and plans from my husband and I; how we came out with our preparation, challenges, struggles, the ultimate stress until my husband got his grey hair so fast even if I dyed it like few days ago, until my eyebags got worst, sleep deprive, my hormones were unstable, losing weights. No worries readers, people told us to enjoy the process of preparing and planning a wedding. So yeah, probably we did.
And No. I wasn't pregnant either. Doesn't mean a couple got engage, she won't get pregnant or she might already pregnant. Doesn't mean the couple straight away to go for a wedding, she's pregnant. Rational people. Rational and civilised.
Different couple might have different ways of of planning, might run smoothly and become the coolest wedding ever, or might be so grand wedding ever. It's different for other people. And not comparing, just sharing :) All weddings are beautiful.
It won't be I when there is US. Especially when it is an "I DO" event.
Communication with your spouse.
It is very important to always update and discuss with your spouse about what you want to have during your wedding, what he want to have during the wedding; because a husband too, want to be part of the process. Let him be. Never neglect your spouse because he/she is your lifetime. And a wedding is a LIFETIME. Indulge with the plans, and if it's possible, plausible and you can make it happen? MAKE IT HAPPEN. Example, we always talked about having my husband fly around me in a wedding gown for photoshoot using skateboard, with a skateboard? Well, we did. And super awesome! We love it at one point become narcissist with it. Hahahaha.
Budget.
Here is one of the most crucial part in your entire life. Budget budget budget. I was looking at the minimal budget, but with the quality that suits the budget too. I Googles, Pinterest, Reading magazines like nuts, keep on surfing the internet to see the do's & don'ts. I keep on asking quotations on flowers, photographer, wedding galleries, door gifts, hotels, church, caterings, bridesmaid dresses, any DIY in mind, shoes, rings, registrations if any, ties, bestmen, suit, your parents dress, themes; I can list this to the the tiniest thing I plan.
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| My very own DIY Crown for my ladies. |
Remember to set your budget and try to go within your budget. Unless your families are willing to invest, make sure they help you. It's YOUR wedding, they need to make you happy in order they feel happy getting the plan run smoothly. Remember, always do your budgetary.
Family (Both Side).
My families have so much problems that cannot be undo, and it cost me more stress than I ever had. I was under depression. My husband caught me several times crying due to my family problems. It was too much too take until at one point, I don't give a damn anymore. I thanked him (my husband) for still accepting me regardless what happen, loving me more each day by day and not giving up with me. I can't make this wedding happen without the help of one particular family who I owe so much for their help and favor. I'll pay back. Even if it took me so much time, I must pay back. What else could I do besides that praying for their blessings and pay the bit by bit right? It's better than nothing.
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| Brother's artwork for our wedding card Invitation |
Husband's side : They helped. With other things matter as well happened in their families, they helped. Nope, not saying much too.
Planning.
Who you want to be your bridesmaids? Who is your bestmen? Church, where? Date? Choir? Hotel? How many guests who want? How big is your budget scale to your guests attendance? How much you can finance for a hotel reception? What type of rings you prefer? What kind of wedding gown you want? Alcohol? Church Rehearsal? Hotel rehearsal? Band? Performances? Mom? Dad? Friends?
We planned not to put on a wedding reception at first. We just want a simple church ceremony. Pushed, brain washed, advises, opinions, words by words. We gave up. Yah, ok. With the reception, we go....
Back to planning part, you have to put extra time and put aside your laziness for this. It is important. Make a notes on everything you want. I scribble so much on a book until it was now my wedding planning book/ diary. You named it. I scribbled, jot down, full of numbers, colors; GONE CRAZY!
Days before The Wedding: Checklist.
Until few days before the wedding, we checked in early into the hotel. I was at ease. I told my mom I was running away from home because we were bringing a huge luggage bag along during our stay for the wedding. Yeap. Haha. I don't even managed to get a manicure because I was having bad migraine for few days and I just want to eat and eat and eat, sleep, have some rest but nothing can be done. We are still around the clock. I can't even think anymore. I slept only about 3-4 hours everytime during that period. My weight dropped few kgs, my wedding dress was loose (trust me, I asked the wedding gallery to make it smaller few weeks before)... What more to say my wedding ring. Loose! We go through the wedding list, wedding songs, wedding programme, wedding slideshows, wedding colors, flowers, photobooth, last minute payment to be ready, the script, carwash; everything!
My friends were there.. His friends were there too. Our families too.. We wouldn't be able to pulled this off without their help and nagging during the planning. If they don't push us, we might be one step behind for the things we need to do. Without their words and encouragements? Maybe I won't be able to smile and let things go during the actual day. We were really really thankful for that. We can't make things well but they were there for us without we realising it.
During our wedding day..
My husband and I, we prayed before we start our day early in the morning. With the word, AMEN, we let things go and let it run as how it might be. Day or night, as what I remember, we had fun. We say I DO before the priest, giving our smiles and thanks to everyone who was there to witness our day. We hope that everyone did have fun that day. We really apologise if you didn't get enough food, enough rest, or too crowded and so much more.. It wasn't perfect like how I want it to be. Oh well, which bride does not want to have a prefect wedding right?
I remember that we can't greet everyone like how we want it in plan, I remember our emcee did some mistakes during the reception, I remember for not having the slideshows for the matrimony holds during the church, I remember that food and drinks wasn't enough during lunch time in church, I remember that I forgot to bring the ring placement during church, I remember that I don't wear heels during the dinner because I don't even bother to buy one anymore, but I remember friends and families hugging us, the smiles and happiness that they share, putting their time and efforts to come over just to attend the wedding, congratulating us for the new day of our lives.
We (my husband and I), we are not that terrible nor too good to be true during our younger days. I think? We drink till dawn, we party like crazy, some friends are good influences and some are not, some say we might not getting married because our attitudes and manners doesn't please the elderly. Honestly speaking, I thought that I won't be getting married because most elderly say that they are not keen of me for my social life and not be able to settle down. We are just people person; you make friends with us, than of coz we're friends. We will say Hi. If you're not, than it's not. We might know you but we may have difficulty in greeting you probably because that feeling of.. "Yeah, I know her. But I don't think she knows me. So, that's okay. I just knew her through Facebook. That's friends too I guess.." kinda thoughts. Vice versa.
That younger days taught us so much, even now the world still teaching us about lives with God's will and plans. That's the challenges. You want to settle down? You want to stay single? Or be forever clubbers? Anyhow that is your choice to make.
In my opinion, it is all about commitment. It's the commitment to God, to love ones, to families. Keep that in mind, keep that into prayers. I want to be the best for my husband, keeping him safe, warm and happy. Keeping him occupied and annoys him whenever I can, so that he knows that I love him. Because he would do the same to me. :)
To those who are single and searching for love, it will come. Regardless you are getting married now or later, doesn't matter. Live your life to the fullest and love shall come to you. Be wise in getting fullest in life, we might get into the wrong moments until we can't get back on track..
This video was made by Anderson + J Vision Studio, on our actual day, 21 May 2016. Hope you enjoy it. And yes, this video is worth every money that I spend and seek just to make it happened. Please click this link below!
"What we have is timeless
My love is endless
And with this ring I
Say to the world
You're my every reason
You're all that I believe in
With all my heart I mean every word"
I have wrote too much. But I like to share. Excuse me for being boring. I tend to write more with what I have in my mind compare to saying it out loudly. I observe more.
May God bless each and everyone of you, for all the kindness and thoughts. Blessing for our lives to become better and wiser. Seek for His faith and love to be a greater person.
I love you all but I love my husband more! Oh wait, God comes first and He is More More! But I still love everyone!! :)
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Love,
Clare
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